I began studying the psychology of my own experiences in 2004 with a book on Psycholinguistics and one on Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Since then, I’ve studied a bunch of qualifications, and have worked in social care, education, mental health and youth work fields.
Yet, there are some ‘lessons’ you don’t fully comprehend until you’ve lived them.
A few years ago, Christine Kane wrote an article about smiling after challenge, and a particular comment she made really stood out for me:
“That’s because when it comes right down to it, happiness is a lot about training.”
I sat and stared at that sentence. Happiness is about Training your Mind. That kind of rings true… and of course, it’s the whole point of my work, in a way. I want to share all that I know about training the mind to be healthy, happy and effective at learning, feeling and being.
Beyond all my talk about empowerment and inner strength, all my motivation for being a mentor to help people feel equipped for their personal quest: happiness is probably the most common desire in all of us.
The Personal Training Effect
Across the last 15 years or so, I’ve focused on any practise that may allow me to reach that potential, to complete my own personal quest.
I have all this knowledge about meditation, gratitude, visualisation, learning, associations, triggers, challenging our thoughts, and re-defining. But in reality, they’re all tools for experiencing happiness in the moment.
We’re all seeking happiness as someone hiring a personal trainer seeks health and wellbeing. And much like those sessions, it may take a few difficult tasks, pushing against our limits and trial and error to find the workout that gives us the desired results.
The Horizon Never Moves Closer
Similarly, goals generally require us to try various tools and methods, to fail until we learn enough to succeed.
Because really, growing in skills, ability and experience is what makes us human. Personal growth, in my view, means we’re really living.
Christine also reminds us in that article that we’re “…never going to ARRIVE at the horizon. That line where earth and sky meet will always be out in front of you.”
Which is amazing, really. In some ways, the true reach of human potential really is infinite.
It’s something I never remember, especially when I’m feeling bad and can’t explain why. It’s something I know, but can’t access the knowledge of. These little steps are the easiest, and perhaps most effective… But it’s important not to focus on the horizon, just focus on where you want to put your feet next.