psychology

How to Listen to the Lessons of Nature’s Ways | #61

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In this podcast episode, I explore the lessons that Nature teaches us, which remind us to take our time. As humans, we fight so many of our instincts, but even in this modern society, releasing ourselves to the natural chaos that Nature follows – the laws of Physics and science – connects us more deeply with the experience of human spiritual connection. || LINKS MENTIONED|| ⁠⁠⁠– Want to know more… Read More »How to Listen to the Lessons of Nature’s Ways | #61

Staying Rooted in Reality when Setting Expectations | #59

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Setting goals often involves setting expectations – we’ll do X, and it will feel like Y, giving us outcome Z. Yet, our sense of time, our sense of progress, is something humans seem to find particularly tricky to plan for. Particularly in the self-development field, the idea of XYZ leading to a set path is that is unrealistic and therefore sets many of us up to feel like we’ve failed.… Read More »Staying Rooted in Reality when Setting Expectations | #59

Breaking the Hidden Stigma of ‘Changing Your Mind’ | #60

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In this podcast episode, I do a bit of a deep dive into the taboo of changing our minds, confirmation bias and stereotyping, and the lack of ‘trust’ for those of us who reinvent our identities. Our human curiosity, growth, and love of learning are superpowers we should never let go of. When science clearly gives us new information, remaining open and curious instead of trusting stereotypes and confirmation bias… Read More »Breaking the Hidden Stigma of ‘Changing Your Mind’ | #60

The Third Way: Goodbye Either/Or, Hello “And” | #26

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Welcome to the myth of either/or. There is a third way. It’s not that other things need 100% of our time and energy or we shut them out – it may be a 45-second hug, offering 5 minutes to see what your children want to show you, and then they move on and you move on to your thing. I also quote a study about distractions in this podcast as… Read More »The Third Way: Goodbye Either/Or, Hello “And” | #26

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Burnout: Pacing in The Boom and Bust Cycle | #25

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Inspired by the experience of a friend setting herself up to make a lot of different changes all at one time, I talk today about transitions and pacing yourself, including New Year’s Resolutions, and how to avoid Burnout when setting new goals for ourselves. || LINKS MENTIONED|| – Free Self Care Checklist Download – 5 Ways to Set Goals You Might Actually Accomplish – Grab yourself the FREE Roadmap to… Read More »Burnout: Pacing in The Boom and Bust Cycle | #25

The One Reason you Should Commit to Taking Baby Steps

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If you know me, you’ll know a favourite mantra of mine is that ‘baby steps add up’. I don’t tend to succeed if I try to go for big shifts. Some people get a sense of momentum from big changes. Personally, they exhaust me. So if you’ve tried the new year’s resolution, the big “right that’s it” moment and created a grand plan to change your life… and it hasn’t… Read More »The One Reason you Should Commit to Taking Baby Steps

The Truth about Progress: Lapses and Relapses

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Although I no longer support people specifically with their mental health, one of the key lessons I picked up from teaching cognitive therapy tools was the differentiation between a Lapse and a Relapse; which is a concept that applies to any form of progress we’re looking to make. Let’s begin with some definitions. These are not necessarily the dictionary definitions, but they are how I have come to see progress… Read More »The Truth about Progress: Lapses and Relapses

Why Change Is So Damn Hard

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When we want to make a change, we essentially want to ‘learn’ something. Learning is considered a “permanent change in behaviour which occurs as a function of experience.” But there is a force working against us. Nope, not aliens. Nor Nazis. Nope, no Jedis here… In the human body there is a state called Homeostasis. In Greek, it literally means “Staying similar.” This mechanism is entirely devoted to keeping… Read More »Why Change Is So Damn Hard

How To Use Psychology for Life Project Success

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For those who have taken a psychology class, you may have heard of something called “Miller’s Law” or just “the 7 (plus or minus 2) rule” about human nature. Today I’m going to apply this memory rule to those (big or little) life projects or self-development quests. Don’t worry if you hadn’t: I’d never heard of the first term until this week, and the second was a tiny part of… Read More »How To Use Psychology for Life Project Success